Do be a true friend. How to understand that a friend is real
Composition on the topic "Is it difficult to be a true friend?"
Friends are different. Surely every person has friends, good acquaintances - but everyone has one true friend. Is it hard to be that kind of friend?
Of course, almost everyone could become a friend, just "their person." There are, as Pushkin wrote, "there is nothing to do friends." All of them will easily communicate with you. But being a true friend is not easy.
If you're in trouble, what will your friend do? He can sympathize, pat on the shoulder, "come with condolences" - no more. And a friend - one that is real - will definitely try to help. Even if his attempt to help is doomed to failure in advance, and he knows about it, at least he will do something. Necessarily.
A true friend - usually from childhood. But the one with whom you communicated all your life, played together in the yard, chatted at recess, went to the same institute, maybe just a friend. Very good - one that you will always be happy with, with whom you will have fun ... And a friend may appear at another time. But still, in adulthood or old age, making friends is much more difficult than in childhood and adolescence. And even more difficult - not to lose them. Until they and you are forced to lose each other by the inevitable disease in old age ... whose name is death.
As Vysotsky sang: "If a friend suddenly turned out to be neither a friend nor an enemy, but so ...". What happens if your friend suddenly moves away from you? Is he really - just "so"? But let's continue Vysotsky's song: "Drag a friend to the mountains, take a chance ..." Perhaps such a test for both of you is the only way to restore former friendship. And if a friend is real, he will never leave you. "In sorrow and in joy" - such words are usually pronounced at weddings, but they are equally suitable for friendship. In grief, a friend will always help, in sadness - he will experience your feelings, in joy - he will be happy with you ...
Yes, it's hard to be a real friend. But still, such a friendship is wonderful. It should be in everyone's life. And if it is not there, then this is a sign that a person is either very unhappy, or simply "does not live, but exists." Take care of your friends.
Talking to students
"Is it easy to be a true friend"
Equipment: stickers, ball (or some other item)
1. Acquaintance
energizer- Exercise "What I love to do and what I would like to learn"
“You have been studying together at school for a long time. Each of you - interesting person, an interesting personality, everyone contributes to the affairs of the class, to intra-class relationships. As you pass the ball (or any other object such as a pen) to each other, state your name and tell us a little about what each of you likes to do and what you are best at. And say the same about what you would like to learn. (this must be done very quickly).
2. Exit to the problem. Today we will talk about how easy it is to be a true friend.
Tell me, what do you think is the most important word in the title of our conversation?
Children should highlight the words "friend" and "real" (or friendship, real).
Friend, comrade, buddy - are these words the same in meaning? (children's answers). How is your friend different from those whom we call friends, comrades? (children's answers). It is known that friends can be permanent or temporary. Temporary friends we call pals.
Let's emphasize the word "real". If there is a real friend, then there is a fake one. So who can we call a true friend? Tell me, how many of you have such a friend about whom you can say: "This is my real friend"? I see you have your hands up. And who can answer my question, by what signs do you determine that there is a real friendship between you?
Exercise"My real friend."
One girl shared with me that she has no real friends. Let's help her find a true friend. You probably know that newspapers often publish ads under the heading "I want to meet you." Let's guys help this girl and make an announcement on her behalf "I'm looking for a true friend."
Students are invited in groups (or each individually) to write on stickers the qualities that a friend needs. While the children are writing, it is necessary to draw a silhouette of a little man on the board, on which the stickers will be glued. Get a kind of portrait of a true friend.
Joint discussion of the results, it is important to draw the attention of children to the qualities that are necessary for true friendship- indifference to each other, willingness to take part in the fate of each other, devotion, mutual understanding, willingness to sacrifice something for the sake of a friend, etc.
Now let's discuss this situation. Imagine that two guys study at a certain school, let's call them Vanya and Tanya. They are considered true friends. But what an unfortunate event happened. Vanya really liked the model of the car that Tolya's classmate brought to school. At recess, while all the children were having breakfast, without permission, Vanya put this typewriter in his briefcase. Only Tanya saw it. Tolya discovered the loss and began to cry. The teacher saw this and asked the children to return the typewriter. But everyone was silent, and Vanya was also silent. And then Tanya announced that Vanya had taken the car and that he needed to be punished.
What do you guys think - is this a friendly act? (Students express their attitude to the girl's act).
Now imagine yourself in Tanya's place and make suggestions why she did this and could she have done differently? Children make guesses.
What qualities of character would she have to show then? Do you think they are necessary for true friendship. And which of them is inherent in false, fake friendship? (In which case, refer to the diagram of a real friend). It is necessary to bring the children to the conclusion that it would be best if Tanya convinced Vanya to confess his act. Tanya had to help Vanya, her friend, to endure a difficult time, not to turn away from him. Lead the children to the conclusion that loyalty, devotion - necessary qualities for a true friend, but honesty is also a must between friends.
3. Summing up. You know that in every language there are many proverbs invented by people and accumulated over the centuries. These proverbs reflect the thoughts of people, their knowledge and feelings. There are proverbs dedicated to true friendship.
Game "Finish the proverb"(Can be done on request)
One for all and all for one
- old friend…. better than the new two
- Friend is known in trouble
Money can't buy friendship....
Look for no friend, but found ... .. take care
Friendship with an ax .... you won't break it.
4. Reflection.
And at the end of our conversation, I suggest that you make a sculpture dedicated to friendship, to show how you imagine friendship. And each of you will be a part of this sculpture.
The students go out and make a sculpture.
Pay attention, guys, how everyone represents friendship (holding hands).
Love your friends, take care of your friendship! And remember that a true friend will always understand and support if you need to make a difficult conclusion.
Is it hard to be a true friend?
An integral part of the life of any person is a friendly relationship with someone who understands and supports him. Blood relatives, who give the first experience of interaction with society, do not always turn out to be good friends. Many parents
Having lost trust in relatives, it is difficult for a little man to regain closeness with them. Therefore, for true friendship, personal space, respect for the boundaries of the other, is absolutely necessary. This helps not to intervene where a person is not ready to let in or does not want to, which he has every right to.
The growing personality, determining his preferences, seeks close contact with his own kind. Unlike love
Relationships, friendships can arise long before the appearance of interest in the opposite sex. Selflessness, sincerity and empathy are some of the main foundations on which the foundation of a lasting friendship is built.
The popular belief that a friend is known in trouble often loses its meaning when faced with harsh reality. Sometimes happiness is the real test. Envy of other people's successes and wounded pride can play a cruel joke on people who until recently were inseparable. Gradually they move away, find reasons to see each other as little as possible.
Honesty - as the ability to tell the truth in the eye, even if you don’t like it - is a kind of test of how much a person is capable of friendly relations. After all, they are not limited to gatherings, reckless adventures and joint photos. One must be able to present the truth without hurting or humiliating another. But whoever has learned to do this is interested in the progress of a friend. Mutual intimacy is a difficult task, but true friends can handle it.
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Those who can support you in difficult times, share joy and bitterness?
How to choose the right friends?
First you need to understand your surroundings. You must have many friends. Select among them those with whom you really enjoy talking. Pay attention to personal qualities: kindness, respect for elders, culture of behavior and others that are important to you.
Common interests are the key to strong friendship. True friends will always find topics to talk about, but at the initial stage, you should have something in common that will interest both of you.
You should not choose friends based on external factors. Financial position, status, physical shell are absolutely not important when choosing a friend. The soul is what plays an important role. You must see a reflection of yourself in a person, feel it.
What does true friend mean?
Lack of friends leads to loneliness, deep depression, and further health problems. Being a true friend is hard work. It is not enough just to sit at the same desk, attend lectures and spend free time together. Psychologists managed to identify some laws of friendship:
What kind of friends should be avoided?
Life often shows best friend- a true friend. This is a reliable support and support in life. Everyone has the right to choose friends at their discretion, but still there are some tips voiced by experts from the field of psychology. Beware:
For everyone, the answer to the question of what a true friend means sounds different. But hardly anyone wants to have a person nearby who will cause only trouble, rejoice at your defeats. Such people not only do not deserve to be called friends, but the title of friend is not for them.
Do opposites attract?
Many are interested in the question of whether there is friendship between the opposite sex or is it a myth. Yet psychologists agree that such real friends are more attracted sexually than emotionally.
A man is a representative of the stronger sex, a woman always seeks protection in him and subconsciously sees him as the head of her family. Therefore, such friendship often goes beyond and develops into a love relationship. It has been proven that heterosexual friendship mainly occurs when one of the partners already has feelings that he carefully tries to hide.
Emotionally, a man is very different from a woman. For him, the representative of the weaker sex is prey. Sometimes the friends themselves are not aware of the surging feelings, but everything turns out unexpectedly, against the backdrop of jealousy.
Of course, there are also exceptions. Sometimes such friendship withstands all obstacles, distances and becomes only stronger from this.
If in life you were lucky enough to meet people who are ready to support you in any situation, who share sorrows and joys with you, you should know that these are real friends who need to be valued and cherished.
Friendship is one of the most beautiful forms of human relationships. People close to you in spirit make your life more interesting, fuller. They will come to the rescue in difficult times or give good advice.
However, among the people whom you consider your friends, there may be persons who are not entirely sincere and honest towards you. Such individuals use others for their own purposes. In addition, you yourself may be mistaken about how close your relationship with this or that person is.
To understand the situation, first of all you need to define "friendship" for yourself. Think about what you expect from people close to you. Pick a few qualities that real friends should have. Try to describe the relationship that exists between friends.
Friend list
Now see if the reality around you matches your idea of friendship. If among your acquaintances there is a person whose portrait fits the description of a friend, analyze your relationship with him.
Remember if this person supported you in a difficult or incomprehensible situation, whether he stood on your side if necessary. Think about how much this individual is interested in you, asking about what is happening in your life.
Figure out if you share your innermost thoughts with your friend, if you share any ideas with each other. People who don't have any common ground at all are unlikely to be friends. So think about whether you have common hobbies, interests, tastes, goals or principles.
A true friend
Remember that a true friend will not criticize you just like that. They deliberately try to lower the self-esteem of others and, due to this, only individuals who are negatively disposed towards you assert themselves.
At the same time, a true comrade will frankly answer your question regarding your new hairstyle or clothes. If you are interested in his opinion, be sure: he will not lie. You can rely on such a person. After all, a real friend appreciates truthfulness in a relationship quite highly.
Determine how interesting you are together, how often you see each other. Without maintaining a relationship, people can move away from each other. And then yesterday's friend becomes just an acquaintance.
Consider if there were times when your friend neglected your company for the sake of someone else. There is a separate category of people who keep so-called friends in reserve. And if something more interesting turns up for them, they throw their comrades without a twinge of conscience. Stay away from such manipulators if you don't want to be taken advantage of.
