Only strong people know how to forgive. Sayings of great and successful people about forgiveness
Learn to forgive
“Well, how can you forgive this? Is it possible to forget it?!” - in a fit of righteous anger exclaims the Victim of the scoundrel. And although the “terrible episode” occurred back in the Ice Age, she still carefully keeps it in her memory.
Some grievances we carry for years and decades, lovingly folding and sorting them from time to time, like family jewels. At the right time, we take them out and show them to others.
It just seems to us that over time, all our experiences pass, are forgotten forever. Unfortunately, they do not pass, they are not forgotten.
After all, what is a strong experience? This is an unconscious tension of our entire body, a kind of blow to the body. But the blow is not from the outside, but from the inside. The body did not deserve this blow, because it did everything right, it was some other person who did something that did not coincide with your predictions! He did, and you beat yourself! Probably, according to the principle: beat your own - strangers will be afraid. They won't, unfortunately. And your body, which you constantly harass with your endless experiences, sooner or later gets sick. He is tired of such a life, and he is aging faster or through illness is trying to divert your attention from new experiences. Does your body deserve to be treated like this?
What should be done to avoid internal self-flagellation? You just need to learn not to be offended by people for their “wrong”, in your opinion, behavior. It is clear that this contradicts all your previous experience and what other people have told you. And the thought also arises that if you forgive everyone, they will quickly sit on your neck. And who wants it? So there are many internal arguments against forgiveness and in defense of one's position. No one wants to change himself, everyone strives to remake the other according to his own understanding. And although few people succeed, people try again and again.
"I'm offended." Think about this phrase. What does the word "offended" mean? It has the ending "sya", which means that this is a word with a reflexive meaning. It denotes an action directed at oneself, for example: “washed” - washed himself, “dressed” - dressed himself, “combed his hair” - combed himself. That is, he did something to himself. Offended means offended himself.
It wasn't someone else who offended you, it was you who offended yourself! You have made the decision to hurt yourself. You regarded it as hurting your dignity and decided to be offended.
So if the other person has done something that, in your opinion, does not climb into any gate, DO NOT HURT YOURSELF. And not because you can not be offended. Can! Nobody forbids! But you will only make it worse for yourself. Of course, if you have nowhere to put your energy, health and free time, if you have all this in abundance and you want to put it somewhere - offend yourself.
If you offended yourself and you liked it, forgive. Just realize that you will no longer offend yourself, that it is not profitable for you, that there is no benefit from this.
Forgiveness can be used quite a simple formula. It looks like this: “With love and gratitude, I forgive (the name of the one whom you forgive) and accept him as he is. I apologize to (name) for my thoughts and emotions towards him.” This formula must be mentally repeated many, many times until you stop thinking and remembering the offender. Or do not stop responding to his words or actions if he is next to you. Sometimes such forgiveness takes tens of hours of mental work - it is clear that not immediately, but in small portions, 10-15 minutes each.
FORGIVING DOES NOT MEAN APPROVING THE ACTIONS YOU DON'T LIKE. You are not obliged to approve those actions that do not cause you delight. Although outwardly you may well express your disapproval. You are entitled to it! (But in your soul you should have complete calmness or even sympathy.)
If you think that another person has telepathic abilities and can read your thoughts, that he will understand the fallacy of his actions, you are mistaken. If you keep silent all the time, it will never occur to him that you do not like it.
Instead of being offended (offending yourself), open your mouth and say it!
If you are constantly dissatisfied with yourself and take offense at yourself, consider yourself unworthy, it is not enough a good man, then do not be surprised that you do not have money and personal life, success and interesting friends. Why would an unworthy person do all this? It will cost! Let him sit in a dark corner and keep quiet. If you yourself have decided that you are not good enough, then Life will not argue with you.
As long as people love, they forgive.
A woman forgives only when she is at fault.
To err is a property of man, to forgive is a property of the gods.
Forgive, and do not judge, and you will not be judged.
If you're going to love someone, learn to forgive first.
What you cannot forgive yourself is quickly forgotten.
Do not judge, and you will not be judged; do not condemn, and you will not be condemned; forgive and you will be forgiven.
If someone offended you, take revenge courageously. Stay calm and this will be the beginning of your revenge, then forgive - this will be the end of it.
If a woman has already forgiven a man, she should not remind him of his sins at breakfast.
Free sayings about forgiveness
Forgiveness from the Lord must be asked every day ... And for what - there will always be.
Nothing is forgiven more reluctantly than differences of opinion.
Free sayings of the greats about forgiveness
A man forgives and forgets, a woman forgives and nothing more.
Not all forgiveness has sincerity, just as not all sincerity brings pleasure.
Forgiving does not mean forgetting.
The people can forgive writers a lot, but they cannot forgive silence at a time when their fate is being decided.
People will forgive you everything that does not concern them.
We easily forgive those with whom we are bored, but we never forgive those who are bored with us.
Least of all we forgive others for the mistakes we made ourselves.
People have the hardest time forgiving us the bad things they said about us.
Forgiving no one and forgiving everyone is equally cruel.
God forgive me, that's His specialty.
Those whose opinion I value will not apologize for cruel words, they simply will never say them.
I do not forgive her that I loved her.
Forgiving enemies is a wonderful feat; but there is a feat even more beautiful, even more human - this is the understanding of enemies, because understanding is at once forgiveness, justification,.
Free funny sayings about forgiveness
A man can be forgiven for stupidity if it is well paid.
Forgiving the enemy, wave your hand to him.
Whom he laughed at, he has already forgiven, he is even ready to fall in love.
Several apologies are less convincing than one.
Forgive others a lot, nothing for yourself.
You can forgive betrayal, but you can't forgive.
Parents are most reluctant to forgive their children the flaws that they themselves instilled in them.
Forgive your enemies - you may still have to work together.
The more you forgive, the higher you fly.
Forgive others often, never yourself.
You must forgive those whom you cannot avenge.
We often forgive those who annoy us, but we can never forgive those we annoy.
We easily forgive the harm done to us in the past and impotent hostility.
By forgiving the offense, you encourage the worst.
A person can forgive a person everything except bad prose.
Evil done to you is just as easy to forgive as if it was done to others. It is much more difficult to forgive people the evil that we ourselves have done to them; this really takes a lot of fortitude.
True love forgives all crimes except crimes against love.
A woman can forgive a man the evil that he caused her, but she does not forgive the sacrifices that he made to her.
Who laughs, he forgives everything.
A woman forgives everything, but often reminds that she has forgiven.
He would rather forgive you the meanness he did you than the good you did him.
To err is human, to forgive is divine. Alexander Pop
The ability to forgive is a property of the strong. The weak never forgive.
A person becomes not when God forgives him all mistakes, delusions and transgressions, but when a person forgives God all the evil, grief and suffering that he underwent in this world by His will.
Women do not forgive us our mistakes - and even their own.
To all the boys, guys, and men, multiple apologies are less convincing than one.
Free cute sayings about forgiveness
The inability to forgive others is an unforgivable miscalculation of character.
Infidelity is forgiven, but not forgotten.
God can forgive us our sins, but nervous system- never.
Who takes revenge, sometimes regrets the perfect; he who forgives never regrets it.
Men who do not forgive women for their little flaws will never enjoy their great virtues.
There are people we forgive and there are people we don't forgive. The ones we don't forgive are our friends.
To forgive executioners is to punish yourself.
Please forgive me for being right...
They asked an old man: "What is humility?" He said, "If yours sin against you, and you forgive him before he repents."
Stronger than all victories is forgiveness.
No matter how demanding people are in love, they nevertheless forgive more offenses to those whom they love than to those with whom they are friends.
God will forgive, people - never.
Beware of the man who did not answer your blow: he will never forgive you and will not allow himself to be forgiven.
Free Wise Sayings About Forgiveness
I would rather forgive the one who inflicted a wound on the enemy, and not the one who dreams of planting a boil for him: there is already not only an evil, but also an insignificantly small soul.
Can never forgive those who are not guilty of anything.
All gratitude is in the eternal return and in the inability to leave ... Sage! I do not ask for forgiveness ... Who is wise - he has already forgiven without words.
Everything can be experienced, except death, and people are ready to forgive you everything, except for a spotless reputation.
I can forgive, but I can't forget.
Enemies must be forgiven, but not before they hang from the gallows.
Forgive those who speak badly about you, but not those who tell you about it.
Everyone forgives me, no one helps.
It is very easy to forgive others for their mistakes; it is much more difficult to forgive them for having witnessed our mistakes.
To understand is to forgive; it is an excuse for any evil. But in order to judge it is necessary to understand.
Life has taught me a lot to forgive, but even more to seek forgiveness.
To understand everything means to forgive.
Mistakes are not forgiven for those against whom they are made.
We all sin before each other, but few are able to repent before another. And in order for the relationship to be resurrected, you need to come up and say: "I'm sorry." And if it is from the heart and they answer you from the heart, the evil will go away.
Priest Alexy Potokin
Forgiving and accepting forgiveness is an art. The art of forgiveness lies in the fact that stupid forgiveness multiplies sin. Late forgiveness kills, but wise and timely forgiveness inspires.
Priest Konstantin Kamyshanov
You don't forgive others to heal them.
You forgive others to heal yourself.
Forgiveness does not change the past, but frees the future.
If you suffer from the injustice of a bad person, forgive him, otherwise there will be two bad people.
Augustine Aurelius
Forgiveness is a great gift.
What's more, it doesn't cost anything.
The best reaction to enemy criticism is to smile and forget.
Vladimir Nabokov
TO FORGIVE
You need to be able to forgive. Many people think that forgiveness is a sign of weakness. But the words "I forgive you" do not mean at all - "I am too soft a person, so I cannot be offended and you can continue to spoil my life, I will not say a single word to you", they mean - "I will not let the past spoil my future and present, so I forgive you and let go of all grievances.
There is magic in forgiveness... The magic of healing. Both in the forgiveness that you give, and in the one that you yourself receive.
Everything starts with forgiveness. If we keep a grudge in ourselves, this is a manifestation of pride. I don't take it as mine, I blame it on someone else. I do not understand that I am a Soul that has done some wrong things, and now these lessons are returning to me.
If a person has hurt you, do not answer him the same, do good. You are a different person. You are better. Remember.
One of the most useful life skills is the ability to quickly forget everything bad: do not dwell on troubles, do not live with resentment, do not revel in irritation, do not harbor anger ... Do not drag different rubbish into your soul.
If people are judging or criticizing you, remember that more often than not, at the very moment they are judging you, they are thinking only of themselves. Don't get angry or resentful of them, just understand that it hurts people when they can't match what you're superior to.
The ability to forgive and ask for forgiveness is the foundation for a strong relationship. It is important to learn to sincerely and wholeheartedly say "I'm sorry" to each other, instead of hurting each other with needles of reproaches and claims.
Resentment and resentment are like poison that you drink in the hope that others will be poisoned. Happiness begins with forgiveness.
Cassie Combden
As soon as a person falls ill, he needs to look in his Heart for whom to forgive.
Stronger than all victories is forgiveness.
One a little boy, when asked what forgiveness is, he gave a wonderful answer: "It is the fragrance that a flower gives when it is trampled."
The most necessary science is the science of forgetting the unnecessary. Antisthenes.
Your ability to love others... and yourself... is directly proportional to your willingness to forgive others and yourself.
For example, instead of loving the parents you would like, try learning to love the parents you have.
In order to heal from past trauma, you will first have to get angry, mourn the losses, and finally forgive them all.
You will not be able to fully forgive anyone until you are willing to voluntarily give up the right to revenge and reparation ... - forever.
You don't forgive others to heal them.
You forgive others to heal yourself.
Chuck Hillig
"You cannot defeat the enemy until you have cured in yourself what you consider low in him."I Ching (Book of Changes)
Very often, in other people, we painfully perceive precisely those actions, reactions, feelings that we sin ourselves with. And real, true forgiveness of another person begins with the ability to see one's own weaknesses and shortcomings.
Perhaps we need to learn to forgive ourselves before we can allow others to forgive us for the wrong we have done them, or before we ourselves can (in spirit or face to face) forgive them for the wrong they have done to us.
And you forget - and it will become easier.
And you forgive - and there will be a Holiday.
And you strive - and you will succeed ...
Do not be stingy - and you will be rewarded!
And you will return - will be rewarded ...
And you believe - and they will believe!
Start by yourself - it will start all around!
And you LOVE! And you will count!
The ability to ignore is even more valuable than the ability to forgive. For we are compelled to forgive what we have already attached importance to.
Today is Forgiveness Sunday.
Don't forget to ask for forgiveness from everyone you've offended over the year.
Also, do good deeds!
Forgiveness saves our heart
Sometimes we forgive the offender, sometimes we keep the bitter feeling in ourselves, sadness or thinking of a way to get revenge. And how does this affect our cardiovascular system? First, the participants in the experiment had to recall the case when they were severely offended. They were asked to imagine that they were taking revenge on the offender, and in order to warm up the insult, to remember how they suffered, what pain they experienced. Then they were asked to forgive their offender, to try to find an explanation for his act, to admit that all people have their weaknesses ... Cardiograms and tomography readings left no doubt: negative emotions and resentment increase the heartbeat and increase blood pressure, and the manifestation of empathy immediately alleviates stress. So now it is scientifically proven: it is harmful to be offended.
Are you already familiar with Ho "oponopono? This is a very simple spiritual practice that gives incredible results. The essence of the practice is that you open your heart and create reality full of love and harmony with the words:
1. "I love you."
2. "Forgive me."
3. "I'm sorry."
4. "Thank you."
The fundamental point of Ho "oponopono is the assumption of 100% responsibility for everything that happens in the world. That is, not only for our actions, but in general for everything that we know or do not even guess about.
Not to ask and not to give forgiveness when you are asked is considered incorrect, however, which of the above is still more terrible?
Learn to forgive people, otherwise you will protect yourself from people with an impenetrable wall of your own thoughts.
The beauty of the soul in a person is much more important than bodily forms, and nothing beautifies the soul so much as the ability to sincerely forgive.
Your offenders must be forgiven. Of course, if there is such a desire, for it is at least unreasonable to step over oneself for someone's peace of mind.
Uncontrolled generosity borders on indifference.
You should not forgive your mistakes, but learn from them.
“Sorry, you don’t…” “I’m sorry!
Enemies must be forgiven in order to prevent them from achieving their goal - to sow anger in you.
Forgetting someone the evil said about you is much easier than removing the burden of foul language released into someone's address.
The idea of universal equality fills me with horror, since it is much more difficult to forgive an equal than one who is lower or higher than you.
I'm ready to forgive you everything except this vile weather! This, alas, is beyond my powers.
Continuation beautiful quotes read on pages:
Forgiveness is a feat of the heart. Ravil Aleev
He who never forgives is the most unforgivable. Leonid S. Sukhorukov
He got away with everything, even the fact that he sold stolen goods with his hands. Aron Vigushin
Apology does not mean that you are wrong and the other person is right. It just means that the value of your relationship is more important than your own ego.
People who do not feel love for themselves, as a rule, do not know how to forgive. Louise Hay
I hate people who can't forgive. Friedrich Nietzsche
"Forgiveness" means to forgive. Until you forgive a person, you will not be able to say goodbye to him. Olga Muravieva
By forgiving the offense, you encourage the worst. Publilius Sir
It is necessary to forgive with a reminder to be remembered. Ishkhan Gevorgyan
He who did not forgive the enemy did not experience one of the most refined pleasures of life. Johann Lavater
The ability to forgive does not come immediately, but as you realize that no one cares about your grievances. Mikhail Mamchich
I do not forgive her that I loved her. Anton Pavlovich Chekhov
Forgiving is harder than saying goodbye. Igor Sivolob
A woman forgives only when she is at fault. Arsene Husse
The ability to forgive is a property of the strong. The weak never forgive. Mohandas Karamchand Gandhi
Forgiveness is the highest form of understanding and mercy; mercy of the heart to the one who destroys it. Ravil Aleev
Infidelity can be forgiven, but not forgotten. Marie de Sevigne
Forgiveness of the offender is an act of mercy, first of all, to oneself, because the smoldering and smoky resentment in the heart causes tangible harm to the ecology of the soul. Yuri Tatarkin
When not guilty, it is especially difficult to achieve forgiveness. Arkady Davidovich
Forgiving doesn't mean forgetting. Sarah Bernard
Everything can be experienced, except death, and people are ready to forgive you everything, except for a spotless reputation. Oscar Wilde
Whoever has a family that has broken up or a spouse has died should know that by forgiving the past, you are shaping your future. First, talk to your stressors. Forgive your fears, guilt, economic problems, such as you personally have. Forgive yourself for taking them into yourself, and ask forgiveness from your body for that. What did this do to your body badly. Luule Viilma
Strange people do bad things to each other, and ask God for forgiveness Igor Sivolob
We are always glad to forgive ourselves… Nikolay Sudenko
Stronger than all victories is forgiveness. Johann Friedrich Schiller
I can forgive everyone, but, on the other hand, why should I forgive everyone? A.V. Ivanov
I forgive people who don't share my opinion, but I don't forgive those who don't share their own opinion. Sh. Talleyrand
Step forward begins with confrontation. Evgeny Kashcheev
It is not difficult to forgive a person, it is more difficult not to reciprocate disgusting Oleg Sviridov
Forgive me for not recognizing you, but I have changed so much! Oscar Wilde
Forgiveness must come from the one who feels bad. Luule Viilma
Know how to forgive, and your power will increase. Publilius Sir
Forgive first those who are unable to forgive your superiority. Leonid S. Sukhorukov
True forgiveness is the bridge that frees us from guilt and fear and allows us to experience heaven on earth. Gerald Yampolsky
Holy Scripture tells us to forgive our enemies, but nothing like that is said about friends. Francis Bacon
If you can, resort to forgiveness, but if you can’t, go and crucify! Ravil Aleev
Foolish is he who offends. A hundred times more stupid is the one who does not know how to forgive them. Unknown (Miscellaneous)
Do not judge, and you will not be judged; do not condemn, and you will not be condemned; forgive and you will be forgiven. Gospel of Luke
The law is above vengeance, mercy is above the law, and forgiveness is at the feet of God. Ravil Aleev
Always forgive your enemies, nothing irritates them so much. Unknown (Humor)
Ask yourself: “What is tormenting me now? And forgive that which torments. Luule Viilma
Our resentment and anger is related only to us, to our ability to forgive ourselves. Louise Hay
The most accomplished person I will call the one who knows how to forgive others. Pliny the Younger
Forgiveness is the highest measure of correction. Ravil Aleev
One of the secrets of a long and fruitful life is to grant forgiveness to all people every night before going to bed. Ann Landers
You can't forgive those who don't know how to forgive. Friedrich Nietzsche
Forgive everyone - you will be delighted with free time. Valentina Bednova
Anger good people is nothing but an urgent need to forgive. Pierre Augustin Beaumarchais
A person who forgives his parents and the parents of his parents saves their souls from the yoke of guilt and at the same time frees both their and his soul for future children. Luule Viilma
Forgiving everyone is no better than forgiving no one. Jean Baptiste Laroche
People will forgive you everything that does not concern them. Yuzef Bulatovich
The only unforgivable mistakes are those we no longer love. Madeleine de Scudery
We must choose to free ourselves and forgive everyone without exception, especially ourselves. Let us not know how to forgive, but we must strongly want it. Louise Hay
There is no forgiveness, only the wrong ones were asked. Mikhail Mamchich
A woman forgives everything, but often reminds that she has forgiven. Simone de Beauvoir
Forgive your enemies - you may still have to work together. Unknown (Humor)
As soon as a person falls ill, he needs to look in his heart for whom to forgive. Louise Hay
You must forgive those whom you cannot avenge. Arkady Davidovich
If I had not forgiven myself for this, I would never have forgiven myself for this. Yefim Shpigel
Forgive your enemies The best way get them out of it. Oscar Wilde
God forgives the one who forgives others. Olga Muravieva
Only the strong can forgive. Eliza Ozheshko
To err is the property of man, to forgive is the property of the gods. Alexander Pop
Forgive your old enemies - you already have new ones. Krzysztof Konkolewski
It is very easy to forgive others for their mistakes; it is much more difficult to forgive them for having witnessed our mistakes. Jessamine West
A fool looks for mistakes in others, a smart one in himself, and a wise one forgives everyone. Valentina Bednova
Forgiveness is easy, but it is difficult to forget that you showed such generosity as forgiveness, but did not hear special thanks. Yuri Tatarkin
Everything that a woman forgives, she will still remember you. Igor Karpov
Where God "does not forgive", there the devil "protects". Vladimir Borisov
Forgiveness means it's already over. Françoise Sagan
Forgiveness is sacred work. Without realizing her mistakes, she does not give results. Luule Viilma
He forgave her everything, but she did not forgive him. Valery Afonchenko
If you turn your second cheek, you will need a third. Arkady Davidovich
Understand everything - forgive everything. Germaine de Stael
By forgiveness, I open myself up to the good, believe in the good, and give my protective spirits the opportunity to help me. Luule Viilma
Do not get tired of forgiving others, because others may get tired of forgiving you. Unknown (Humor)
Life has taught me a lot to forgive, but even more to seek forgiveness. Otto von Schoenhausen Bismarck
The bot will forgive me, this is his specialty. Heinrich Heine
It is better to forgive all your life than to ask her forgiveness. Harry Simanovich
Forgive your mothers and fathers to the last detail, even when they have gone to another world. You deserve them. This is your karma, not only theirs. Luule Viilma
If you ask for forgiveness for the sins of your previous life and forgive yourself for not doing so until now, then you can be freed from the sin of the previous life. The only problem is to find a clairvoyant who would look at the previous life. Luule Viilma
Yes ... It's too late to ask for forgiveness from the dead. A.V. Ivanov
Forgive your friends as your enemies. Gennady Malkin
God will forgive, people will never. Veselin Georgiev
To learn to forgive, you must have at least a minimal mind. Boris Krieger
“The ability to forgive is a property of the strong. The weak never forgive." - Mahatma Gandhi
Some people will never accept the idea of forgiveness, any arguments are useless. You can try to convince them for a long time that the inability to forgive, revenge, hatred or resentment make us live in the past.
Inability to forgive
All these will be empty words if a person does not know how to forgive at all. Forgiveness requires courage. Often his whole life is filled with grievances and to forgive means to feel emptiness. The person becomes scared.
If he gets rid of resentment, then what will he be left with? Such a person is accustomed to using this emotion in order to manipulate others, causing them chronic guilt. Being offended is a familiar way of interacting with the world. And his whole world is divided into bad offenders and good offended people like him.
Pseudo forgiveness
Another category of people are “pseudo-forgiving”. It is easier for such people to say: “I have forgiven” than to understand the reasons for their offense. And all because they are afraid to realize their feelings, and even more so to decide to voice their feelings and demands, risking forever ruining or even destroying relationships.
The fear of destroying the relationship occurs when you have already tried to talk about your feelings, but faced with the cold indifference of your partner and his unwillingness to change anything. But pretending that you don't resent people when you are actually offended and angry is not the same as forgiving. This is a form of self-denial, which is destructive for a person.
Some experts generally argue that resentment is not a real feeling. It is a behavior used to manipulate another person.
“Resentment is a feeling that appears in us so early that we can be firmly convinced that this is a primordial feeling. Ann is not. This is a racket. Remember children. At what age do they start to be offended? Yes, exactly when they understand that being angry with their mother for not getting candy is ineffective.
It is much more justified to be offended by her, “I don’t love you” - hits without a miss and acts more destructively than a nuclear bomb. A rare parent can withstand such an onslaught. Having made a conclusion, the child begins to hone and improve his skills. The ability to be offended becomes a skill, then a habit, and then a reflex ”(Zygmantovich P.V.)
Resentment is a tool for managing human relationships. In childhood, the child is offended, they pay attention to him, the parent feels guilty, often not even understanding why, and from this feeling he does what they want from him. The child "makes a decision" that this is how it is necessary to influence this world in order to be heard. Then it works automatically. To finally stop being offended, you need to learn to forgive.
Forgiveness is forgiveness
Psychoanalysts Nicole Fabre and Gabriel Ruben identified the main stages that a person goes through on the way to the ability to forgive:
Forgiveness is the decisive renunciation of suffering. The first and important step towards the ability to forgive can be a conscious decision to stop suffering, stop being offended and forget about justice. Unfortunately, sometimes for this you have to part with those who hurt us.
Forgiveness is an acknowledgment that you have been wronged. Thanks to the mechanisms of psychological defense, suffering, hatred and anger are forced into the unconscious, where they continue to act with destructive force. We need to acknowledge the guilt of the person who harmed us.
As Gabriel Reuben explains, this awareness gives us the opportunity to “put the blame back on the offender and thereby reconnect with ourselves.” In addition, it will avoid the development of psychosomatic diseases or behavior patterns that lead to repeated failures in work and relationships.
Forgiveness is taking care of your health. Psychologists have found consistent physiological differences between states of unforgiveness and forgiveness. At one memory of the offender, all the subjects disrupted the activity of the cardiovascular system. These changes became very significant when they thought about revenge.
To stop being offended, you need to get angry. Feeling angry at first is even useful, it speaks of mental health and that you do not deny what happened and do not transfer the guilt of others. So acknowledge and "let out" your suffering.
Of course, there is rarely such an opportunity to directly express your anger to the offender, to express reproaches. He may not consider himself guilty, or he may have such strong power over us that we will not dare to resist him.
However, we can help ourselves by using a variety of techniques for dealing with resentment.
Stop feeling guilty. Forgiveness means being able to forgive yourself. Here it is important to find out what was hurt - your pride, reputation, honor or bodily boundaries? “The answer to this question can help get rid of guilt, that is, to realize that we are not responsible for what happened to us,” says psychoanalyst Nicole Fabre.
The ability to forgive is the understanding of the one who offended you. Natural reactions of anger and anger help us to stop being offended, but if you feel hatred for a long time, it will lead to self-destruction. To avoid this, it is useful to understand the motives of the one who offended you, to see his weaknesses, to comprehend the act that caused us pain, which will help to forgive him.
How do we know if we have really forgiven and stopped being offended?
If we no longer feel any anger or anger towards the one who made us suffer, and “if the feeling of guilt about what happened has disappeared,” adds Gabriel Reuben, then we can consider that we have forgiven.
Psychologists do not get tired of repeating that forgiveness is needed not by the offender, but by ourselves
“To forgive is to free the “prisoner” and discover that you were the “prisoner” © Lewis B. Smeides
The ability to forgive is a liberation in which pain dissolves and which helps the survivor to become the master of his life, stop tolerating and suffering, or even become stronger.
