There are many unfair things in life. I fell in love with a girl with all my heart, and she is married. Real feelings are not sorted by nation, position in society or marital status. If fell in love with a married girl, then there is little joy in this. On the one hand, I want happiness and reciprocal feelings, on the other hand, the moral side haunts. Especially if the beloved has a common child with her husband.

The main psychological point in such a situation can be rephrased as the following question: “Does a person have the right to be happy, or is he obliged to suffer?” In other words, no matter which path a man in love chooses, it won't be easy. But, only in the case when the girl reciprocates, there can be common goals and joint efforts to facilitate the solution of such a difficult situation.

Love, but do not destroy the family

All men are very jealous. Even a fleeting smile given to a beloved girl can turn into a scandal for her at home. Husband - although it is an obstacle to your happiness, you should not go ahead. This can do a lot of damage to your loved one.

Even if a girl responds to your love, where is the confidence that this is not a fleeting hobby? And feelings will fade, having lost their sharpness, with your approach. The Forbidden fruit is sweet! While your beloved wife is another, maybe it is this circumstance that attracts you?

Before taking any steps, you need to weigh everything many times so as not to regret later about what you have done ...

Pursue your happiness

If you are absolutely sure that the one you love, and the one that, unfortunately, is married, is the only way to be happy in this life, then you need to act. If a girl loves you, and you are also her only chance for happiness, then you need to try to join forces to achieve the goal - creating a family.

After all, this is your only goal, for the sake of which you will break up someone else's family and make someone unhappy? If such an end is not provided for in your story, then you should not fool the woman. Perhaps she will be happier with her lawful husband, and not with you.

Sometimes, people who built their happiness on the ruins of a broken family are never completely happy. The reason for this may be prejudices and one's own conscience, and, sadly, a child from another man.

Not every lover can accept a beloved child from an ex-husband. You need to have a huge margin of tolerance and loyalty to an innocent creature. And, you still need to love, to the pain in your soul, all the children, and not just your own. Then someone else's baby can become native. Not sure that you are capable of such love in a child? Don't fool the poor woman!

If you decide to pursue your beloved, then keep in mind that you risk being beaten. In the literal sense of the word. By destroying someone's family, you can destroy the life of more than one person. It is clear that the one from whom his wife can be taken away is capable of strong emotions and even justified anger. Will you be able to adequately accept such trials and not harm the person from whom you are going to take the most precious thing? Are you afraid for your health? Then leave the unfortunate girl alone!

Love for a married woman is a very difficult situation, from which everyone finds their own way out. If a man is able to "wrestle" with his ego, then he leaves the choice to the girl. First of all, it is her family that is at risk of being broken, and her child may lose his father.

Are you ready to take on this responsibility? Then - forward, towards your happiness!

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Instruction

Men sometimes have a feeling of falling in love or love, and sometimes just a need to seek adventure when choosing such a woman. After all, sometimes woman choose simply from the expectation that she will not insist on marriage. However, the problem is that the husband is not for the same reasons as men. And in this situation, you can get a lot of trouble.

A married woman who agrees to does not do this because of a search for diversity in sex, this is due to the fact that she lacks something in a relationship with, and lacks so much that she agrees to risk her existing relationship. And this is not a search for temporary entertainment. If a married woman also falls in love with you, be prepared for the fact that she wants to legalize relations with you. She is not a mistress, she has already been chosen, paid a big price and evaluates herself lower and she is unlikely to want to go to the "position" of a temporary girlfriend. So if you yourself are married, think carefully before you are ready to destroy your family for the sake of a strange woman.

Also, don't discount her husband. Few of the men will take the news of his wife's betrayal calmly, and it is very difficult to hide the relationship - some little thing will definitely give you away. And you have every chance to become the hero and heroine of the criminal chronicle. Perhaps he himself will not do this, but simply hire people, but this is not so important.

So if you are married woman better love her as a knight loved his lady. If you truly love her, you will act in her best interest. You can help her gain more attention from her husband by gently provoking her husband to jealousy. So the woman will be happier, and so you yourself will avoid trouble.

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• I love a married girl

Men often cheat on their wives. They meet younger girls with whom they have short-term romances. Women also sometimes cheat on their husbands. They go to such an act because of cooled feelings, lack of attention and other difficulties in relationships. Women in such situations can be understood. But another fact is interesting here: a free man quite often likes married women more than free ones.

Reasons for choosing men over married women

In general, there are a lot of reasons and they are all different. Probably the most main reason is the absence of any obligations to the woman.

If a woman is married, she will not demand anything from her lover, because apart from sex, in fact, she does not need anything from him.

Another reason that married or single men choose is the desire to surpass the husband of their mistress, thereby once again proving their leadership.

When meeting a woman, she does not need to buy expensive gifts, which means that she does not need to spend a lot of money on her, since she cannot bring them home.

Unlike a free woman, there is much less time, which means that she will not be bothered by calls, SMS with questions about regular meetings.

As a rule, women are not so demanding, less accommodating and inaccessible.

It was inaccessibility that always attracted men to women. They are interested in the process of winning female consent.

Men are attracted to the fact that a married woman does not create such problems (for example, “I want to get married”) as a free woman. It is more clean, which means that there is a guarantee that you will not get any sexually transmitted infection from it.

Not a free woman for a man is extreme, because you need to be able not to catch the eye of friends.

Also, men are madly in love with caring and their attentiveness. They know how to cook, wash and do other household chores. They always take care of their man.

A married woman can be left much easier, without any tantrums in response, she just doesn’t need it. In addition, they are more independent, unlike free women.

How do these novels end?

Of all cases, only 1% of such passionate relationships end in marriage, and the remaining 99% do not develop into serious relationship. As they say, no one is immune from love. There are cases when a simple relationship between men and women developed into a stormy romance, bringing a whirlwind of emotions and feelings. And such novels often end in marriage. But love intrudes into such relationships not so often. Usually, such relationships between men and married women are just an outlet that allows you to forget about all existing problems and plunge headlong into a whirlwind of passions. As a rule, very often such passions subside quickly and the relationship ends with the usual breakup.

Sometimes we face serious problems – we suffer, we worry, and we don’t know what to do in difficult life situations. Our life is sometimes unpredictable and fate often tests us for strength. Each person has his basic life principles, which he, at the very least, but tries to adhere to. And then suddenly such an unpredictable and wonderful feeling came - falling in love.

And you can’t brush it off, it doesn’t give your soul peace, because you fell in love with a girl who is married.

“Yes,” you say to yourself, “I fell in love with a married girl, and I don’t know what to do, and where is the way out of this situation?” That is, in other words, a love triangle has formed.

Having met a person - a girl and "reaching out to her with all my heart" it is difficult to think: does she have a husband, children - is she free. Let's agree: answer the questions honestly, without deceiving yourself in the first place. Your exit and your decision depend on this - the psychologist is only trying to help you understand yourself.

The state of mind of a young man who fell in love with a married girl

If you managed to fall in love with a girl who is not free, but married, which makes life and your meetings much more difficult. A really strong feeling that covered the man with his head - he does not understand what status his beloved is in. But, we can confidently say that in this case he will be overwhelmed by conflicting feelings. First, he wants a simple, very ordinary happy daily coexistence with her. Naturally, receiving reciprocity.

Secondly, the experience of constant remorse. Especially if there are children in her family (with her husband). It is clear that this situation for a man is not easy, ambiguous and complex. Fighting for his beloved, if he decides to go, obeying his first sensation, should be only when the feeling is really mutual, there is a common desire and goal. Only through joint efforts with this woman will he be able to ease his way out of this difficult situation.

Answering difficult questions

1. First and most main question- Do you have your own accommodation? If you don’t have your own home, where will you bring your beloved woman to build a family with her? What if she has a child? Wandering around rented apartments is not an option. Do not expect that the deceived husband will voluntarily show nobility and give you housing, and he himself will go nowhere - this does not happen.
2. Are you ready to build a joint life with your beloved woman: in a month the first euphoria from your living together will pass. I will not reveal secrets if I say that the most terrible enemy of love is everyday life. Imagine your responsibilities, the problems that you, as a man, must solve. Are you ready to make sacrifices for this person? How well do you know her character? Perhaps something is already bothering you? Take a closer look at your chosen one. Better now, before the family is destroyed! Talk to your beloved, ask if she wants life together with you?
3. Ask yourself: “If she left her husband for me, where is the guarantee that this will not happen to me again?” Put yourself in the place of a deceived husband! Nice? I think it's unlikely. It is not for nothing that the phrase that has set the teeth on edge sounds: “You cannot build happiness on someone else’s misfortune.” Even if your woman speaks badly about her husband, this does not mean that he really is like that. I don’t argue, maybe she doesn’t have vivid feelings for her husband, maybe there is friendship-love: this is not a reason to get into a person’s personal life. And if a child loves his father, imagine: maybe the child will never accept you! Children are maximalists. Can you love someone else's child yourself? It's complicated.
4. When a girl got married, she certainly loved this man who became her husband, once she bore him a child, and even more so - children. If there is no child in the family, this, of course, simplifies the task, but does not solve it. It all depends on her attitude towards you: will she be afraid to drastically change her life? The majority of people do not want to change their lives, it scares them. Do not rush your beloved with a choice - here only time and your perseverance from afar will help you.

• Love from afar. The family should not be destroyed. There are simply no men who would not experience such a feeling as jealousy. There are those who do not make scandals over trifles.
  In the event that the husband notices that an outside man is giving his wife great attention, caring for her, and she encourages him, a scandal in the family cannot be avoided. In this case, it will be difficult to continue your communication with your beloved. She could be hurt a lot.
• It is necessary to be with your beloved until the “very end”, despite her status as a married woman. The beloved girl is married, but her feelings for her husband have cooled down or completely disappeared. Moreover, her husband has the same attitude towards her - love has passed, but there is a common habit. In this case, a man is recommended not to stop and seek her, the only one, arranging his and her happiness by marrying her. Perhaps this time everything will be fine for both: both him and the girl he loves. Otherwise, if the creation of a family is not included in the plans, then the man should not “break” her family.
• If the beloved, who is strongly attached to the father, and the relationship with the mother’s friend does not add up, then in this case, the woman should be left with her legal spouse. The happiness of a woman with a new chosen one will not work because of a child whose interests are a priority for her. In addition, not every man who is in love with a woman who has already “married” is able to fall in love with her child from ex-husband. Is it worth it in this case to seriously seek a woman, taking her away from the family? In this case, psychologists suggest limiting yourself to light, non-binding flirting.
• When caring for a girl who is legally married, it is worth finding out her desire. It is possible that from her husband, a woman with whom an outsider is in love (friend, colleague, acquaintance) receives less attention. And she needs it. It is important for her to understand and feel that she is loved, desired and necessary in her husband's life. If there is respect in the family, she will not leave her husband, and she will not take a man in love with her “seriously”. So, she flirts a little with him, accepting his courtship. Torture him and leave him with nothing.
• It is possible that a married lady has secret dreams that her husband cannot fulfill or does not have the desire to fulfill. Then, the gentleman in love with her should find out: what are these secrets and implement them as much as possible. It is highly likely that such actions on the part of a man in love will lead to her becoming interested in him, which, after some time, may develop into something more, but this usually works with mercantile women.
• A man in love with a married girl should build a plan of action to “conquer” her so as not to harm the reputation of both the woman and his own. At the same time, the desires of her child should also be taken into account, if he was born in her marriage to her husband.
  In this case, the risk that their romance will be declassified is minimal. Especially if the joint future is in their general plans Excluded.
• Pay attention to the girl free from all sorts of obligations. When conquering a woman whose status is “married”, a man in love with her must be prepared for the fact that he can be beaten. And, in the truest sense of the word. If he understands that such an impact on the part of her husband will not be avoided, and he will not be able to respond in the same way, as a result of which his health will be harmed, then he should leave this idea - to look after and show signs of attention to this woman. It is better to get acquainted with a young charmer - thereby, trying to forget the object of your desires.

It is difficult to love a married woman - a man must find a way out himself

1. Firstly, in the case of falling in love with a married woman, you should not make decisions hastily, without considering such a situation from all sides and without weighing all the consequences.
2. Secondly, if you are confident in yourself and your feelings, you should tell your beloved, but already married girl about them. Let her decide who she needs more in life companions.
3. Thirdly, with your problems, you should contact a specialist psychologist or consult with a person you can trust.
4. Fourth, you should always be prepared for the fact that meetings (until she decides on a choice) will be very rare. On holidays, evenings, weekends - she will stay with her husband. The girl will also decide and plan meetings, because she is not free.
5. Fifthly, the material question is also important. If the husband is rich and generous, then it is practically impossible to win the favor of his wife.
6. Sixth, and last. In the world great amount beautiful, smart, economic, single girls and women of all ages, nationalities and specialties who have been married and do not know at all family life. Among them, you can definitely meet one that can help cope with the problem of falling in love with an already married woman who has everything - both a husband and a child.

We must try to start new life, seek your destiny. Yes, it is difficult and it burns in the chest and hands drop - it will pass! Men can also cry, but only so that no one sees! Crying is not a shame, only people with a heart of stone do not cry, and if the heart knows how to love, then it is alive, and not a stone at all. Do not break someone else's life - tomorrow yours will be under threat!