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How to relax

How to learn to relax and what ways of relaxation exist? Relaxation according to Jacobson + a very effective technique.

How can you relax? Several ways. All of them are effective and proven by practice, you can try and choose the method that suits you physiologically or just more to your liking.

I note that if some method does not give you the desired result, you need to try another. We are all different, and often the little things also play a significant role, everyone needs to find their own.

But there are also basic, paramount ways of relaxation, which are important to remember and apply periodically. About some of them, such as relaxing breathing, mindfulness practice and "Jacobson relaxation", I will describe in the article.

So, all the ways of relaxation that will be discussed: breath; active aggression- do not hold back anger, splash out the accumulated negativity; well known method relaxation according to Jacobson deserves special attention; concentration on methodical lesson; exercise swing on elbows also promotes relaxation good way improve blood supply to the brain; trance as a way to relax and mindful observation practice behind you.

So, how to learn to relax And ways to relax.

1 Breath- this is so important to us that we can write about it separately and a lot. Note that in different states we breathe differently.
and if one breath allows us to calm down and even (by correctly applying the breathing technique) get out of a very nervous and tense state, then another breath, on the contrary, can lead to stress from a serene one.

Breathing exercise.

We switch attention from any thoughts to our breath. We relax the muscles of the face, straighten our shoulders and take a deep breath at our normal pace. At the same time, we take air not into the chest, but more into the stomach. Imagine that you have eaten too many apples, and you have bloating. Next, hold your breath for 3-5 seconds and exhale slowly.

The exhalation should be about a third of the time longer than the inhalation. We do it with short delays between each inhalation and exhalation (2-3 seconds). We repeat inhale - hold - exhale - hold, so 5-6 times. You can do this both with your nose and mouth, without straining too much. When you inhale, you mobilize your resources and fill your blood and organs with oxygen, and when you exhale, relaxation itself occurs, you exhale tension.

Relaxing breathing should not be intermittent, in the process of inhaling and exhaling, try to make everything flow smoothly.

And after you have taken the first 5-6 deep breaths and exhalations, you stop interfering in this process at all, breathing now occurs on its own, you are just watching him, without trying to influence it in any way, let the body itself select the rhythm it needs.

Try to track your breathing at least occasionally throughout the day. This is important, do this exercise often, even if you are completely calm, let the correct, deep and unhurried breathing become your useful, relaxing habit.

And learn to focus on your breath All your attention, then the effect of relaxation will be much stronger.

One of effective methods- active aggression.

A well-known method and has been used for a long time. Good for this in my experience. Gym not only for men, but also for women. Also martial arts. But if this is not about you, then we just find a whipping toy. By the way, you can use your "husband" (wife), the main thing is that it would not be a pity and we understand jokes.

So, find that it is not a pity to break, beat and split, and do it with passion, while it is desirable to shout. Shouting helps to quickly throw out all the negativity and relax. This is especially important for those who do not know how (are afraid) to express their emotions and constantly suppress them, accumulate in themselves. After all, emotional energy does not go anywhere, but accumulates inside, which makes it even harder. I will not persuade you, but find at least occasionally a place and time to throw out the collected experiences.

Shouting in general has many of its functions, for example, by shouting you can warm yourself up, give yourself more courage and even raise adrenaline. In other cases, shouting and swearing well, throw out unnecessary rage.

This method of active aggression is not suitable everywhere and not always, but to get rid of accumulated negative emotions such as, this is one of the best ways how to relax quickly and get rid of stress.

Relaxation according to Jacobson

The technique of Edmund Jacobsan is based on the preliminary tension of the muscles of the body and their subsequent relaxation. For about 10 seconds, alternately tighten the muscles of the face, neck, hands, back, abdomen, shoulders, groin and feet. Next, we relax the involved muscles and try to feel the resulting relaxation.

Recommendations. First. We strain various parts (muscles) of the face, hold the face for 8-10 seconds and relax. It well relieves tension, relaxes and improves facial expressions, and also improves blood circulation in the cells. And don't be intimidated by the thought that exercise can cause wrinkles, it doesn't. Exercise as a positive effect on appearance skin.

Second. Take a cylindrical object so that it fits well in the palm of your hand, and squeeze it with force for 8-10 seconds, then slowly relax your hands and try to feel this pleasant feeling of relaxation. Do not be lazy and do this exercise at least 5 times a day for 1-2 weeks, this will well reduce the overall level of anxiety.

And what is important, after doing it, immediately try to feel this very pleasant relaxation for 1.5 - 2 minutes. The body subconsciously remembers this relaxed state, and then it will be easier to return to it.

I repeat, do this exercise at first 5 times a day, it is important to get rid of old, chronic blocks and reduce anxiety. Then it is enough to do it 2 times a day for prevention or when you feel that you need it. I do not forget and always do these exercises.

Note. Exercise is contraindicated for cores (if the disease is confirmed by doctors). In your case, another relaxation exercise on stretching. To do this, we lie down on the floor or bed and stretch with effort, stretching and bending our neck, arms, legs, and back as much as possible. For proper execution, remember yourself when you wake up, yawn and stretch.

This exercise is weaker, so you need to do it 1.5 times more often than the previous one, also every day. The same 8-10 seconds are performed.

By the way, these exercises will also help well with osteochondrosis. My assistant Eugenia wrote about this in detail. If the topic is relevant to you, read.

How to relax during work or in any other place and situation? We use the hands, as already described above.It's a way to release tension without having to worry about someone seeing something, don't forget about breathing.

Other ways to relax

Concentration on a methodical lesson. I will say just a few words, since I already wrote about this in another article, and you can find out more by going to.

The purpose of this method is to smoothly (without struggle) switch from negative thoughts to something more pleasant and useful, some kind of activity.

Two ideas or objects cannot be fully present in the head at the same time. One thing will still attract great psychological activity. Therefore, it is important to learn soft push out the unnecessary to us, replacing it with something useful, and make this useful gradually captivate (become interesting), and after a while you may notice how the negative has lost its strength and sharpness.

A state of passive observation of everything that happens.

Entering this state of light trance (meditation) promotes mental calm and relaxation.

It is not difficult to enter this state, it is much more difficult to stay in it. Tired physically or mentally, we ourselves do this when we fall into a chair and stop thinking about anything, close our eyes and mentally fall into our sensations, involuntarily setting ourselves up for rest, but at the same time we do not fall asleep.

Either from the outside, we simply observe some point (object, etc.) for a long time, or we follow the thought process, but do not analyze what is happening but just watching everything. You can enter this state of mindful observation at any time you wish.

We sit in a chair, close our eyes, while our mental activity continues to work, thoughts flow in the direction of problems, some business, etc. And now we slow down and smoothly turn off any internal dialogue with ourselves and transfer our attention to the sensations in the body, trying to cover the whole body with attention from the top of the head to the feet.

Feelings can be different, unpleasant and pleasant. Now it is important to shift your attention and start observing exactly the pleasant sensations or some kind of visualizations (pleasant images). The flow of thoughts is smooth and superficial, and we only observe everything.

It may be difficult to switch attention from the negative, or some thoughts will not go out of your head. Here it is important not to fight it in any way, not to drive them away, but simply to turn your attention back to pleasant sensations or breathing. Simply, without analyzing anything, we observe the breath and pleasant sensations in the body.

The exercise is based on observing any pleasant sensation, the heaviness of the arms and legs, the ambient comfortable temperature, on subtle throbbing, twitching or some other light sensation in any part of the body.

Feel this comfort and observe this comfort as if floating above your sensations. Thinking itself will gradually be drawn to the pleasant, and you just watch it.

The state of passive, naked observation is our natural, natural and most important, healing state. For maximum benefit, I recommend an excellent practice for mindfulness and relaxation, in which you will learn not only to observe the pleasant, but also all your emotions, thoughts and states, this teaches awareness in life and acceptance of the present moment, acceptance of all your feelings.

Finally: how to relax

Music and special relaxation, sounds, recorded on disks, are also very effective and can serve as a relaxing element, be an addition to some relaxation techniques.

Also for fatigue relief and raising the tone I recommend cold and hot shower. How to do it right and what you need to know read on

Massage and bathing with special oils and gels is also a good way to tidy up the nervous system.

Sincerely, Andrey Russkikh

Relaxing melody

Try not to think about anything, leave problems and affairs for later, just listen carefully, but calmly, without tension, this will allow you to deeply relax and mentally rest

Are you suffering from anxiety? Anxiety and worries about tomorrow keep you awake? do you have a constant headache? If so, then you definitely have a lot of stress. In order not to aggravate the situation, you need to think about your stress and try to relax. If everything you do is a burden, a burden, fatigue or fear, do yourself a favor and let me relax. Do you want to know how to live more peacefully? Just follow these steps.

Steps

Think about your stress

1. Write down your thoughts. Before you begin to relax and reduce stress to a minimum, you need to sit down at your desk, pick up a pen and paper, and calmly write down how you feel. If you are really stressed out, chances are high that you didn't have time to sit alone and indulge in your thoughts. By writing down your feelings, you will begin the process of relieving stress. Here's what you can write down:

   • What are you thinking about? What does your mind and body go through on a daily basis and how much stress do you experience? Do you think you have always had stress, or is it just now that such a period has come in your life?
   • Think about sources of stress. Is your stress caused by work, relationships, family circumstances, or several factors at once? What can be done to solve problems and reduce stress?
   • If it helps, write down your thoughts every day. Being aware of your feelings and sources of stress is a huge help in coping with it.

2. Make a plan of action. Once you've written down your feelings and it's easier for you to express your stress, you need to create an action plan to reduce your stress. Of course, many life circumstances are inextricably linked with stress, but still stress can be reduced. The action plan should have three main parts:

   • Short term solutions. Make a list of short-term actions to reduce stress. For example, if the commute to work causes you wild stress, try to avoid traffic jams to leave the house twenty minutes early.
   • Long term solutions. Make a plan for how to become a more relaxed person. This includes work attitudes, relationships and responsibilities. For example, if one of the main sources of stress is overwork at work, then make a plan to reduce the workload in the long term.
   • Find time to rest. Look at the diary and reserve time for rest on every day. Even if you are under such stress because of the full workload, still try to find a free minute, at least in the morning or before bed.

3. Try to eliminate as many sources of stress as possible. Although it is very difficult to completely turn your life around to get rid of stress, it is still important to try to eliminate as many sources of stress as possible:

   • Get rid of a friend who is poisoning your life. If one of your friends only upsets you, pisses you off and is the cause of stress, then it may be better to get rid of them somehow.
   • Do a real general cleaning. If your desk, briefcase and house are littered with papers, everything is a mess, and you can’t find anything, then cleaning will make your life a lot easier.
   • Try to avoid stressful situations. If concerts cause you stress, but your boyfriend still drags you to them, then it's better to listen to music at home. If cooking for guests is stressful, then next time order something to take home.
   • Plan ahead. If you're stressed because you haven't figured out all the details of your upcoming trip in a few months, then sit down and book a flight and a hotel, and finally stop worrying.
4. • Talk about your stress with a close friend. Most likely, your friend also has a similar experience, so it is better to listen to his advice and suggestions.
   • Open up to a family member. They will support you and help you deal with stress.

5. You need to know where to turn for help. If you are completely exhausted by stress and due to worries and worries, do not sleep at night and do not eat, then it may be too difficult to cope with the problem on your own. Contact a professional, he will definitely help and tell you.

   • A professional can help if your concerns are related to a particular situation. If your stress is due to wedding preparations and new job, then a professional will teach you stress management techniques that you can successfully apply in the future.

   Relax your mind

   1. Meditate. This is a wonderful way to relax the mind, you can meditate almost anywhere and anytime. Find a quiet place, sit on the floor and close your eyes. Cross your legs and place your hands on your hips. Concentrate on inhaling and exhaling, let the breath control the body. Sit as quietly as possible, don't fidget.

      • Don't forget what you can't control. Concentrate on the surrounding smells and sounds, absorb them.
      • Clear your mind. Don't think about how much work you need to do or what to cook for dinner. Just breathe slowly and deeply and clear your mind.
      • Relax every part of your body. You can do this gradually until you are completely relaxed.

   2. Spend time with friends. It helps a lot to relax. Anything helps, and some kind of board game, and coffee gatherings. Time with friends will allow you to de-stress and maybe talk. Here's what you can do:

      • No matter how busy you are, try to go out with friends at least a couple of times a week. Add some social events to your calendar and go to them, otherwise you will feel even more isolated.
      • Spend time with friends Fine. That is, try to actually communicate with each other, at a noisy party or concert, you may feel overwhelmed.
      • Open up. You don't have to tell your friends about your worries in great detail, but you should feel free to ask for support.
      • Try to choose activities where you will have the opportunity to laugh. If you have a busy schedule, have a board game night or go see some comedy with your friends. In a crowded bar, there will be much less opportunities to laugh.

   3. Go for a ride in a car. If you like to drive, then this late-night drive will allow you to relax and feel confident in your abilities. Nightmarish traffic or boorish behavior of other drivers may annoy you, but on night roads you will feel calmer and more confident.

      • Find your favorite route. Ride it every time until it becomes a routine, then you can relax and not think about where exactly to turn.
      • While driving, listen to jazz or calm relaxing music.
      • Long trips are especially good after you've spent a few hours talking to people. After hours of laughter and socializing, a twenty-minute drive home alone will help you calm down.

   4. Read. Reading is a great way to relax, especially before bed. An hour before bed, try to turn off all sources of noise and visual stimuli and sit down to read something while sipping chamomile tea, and then go to bed. Reading is also a great way to get ready in the morning for the day ahead. Reading will not only broaden your horizons, but it will also relax your body and calm your mind.

      • Reading is a great way to unwind after a hectic day. Set a goal to read for at least half an hour every day.
      • If you're stressed and can't concentrate on what you're reading, take a break to meditate or say the words out loud to help you focus.

   5. Before you go to bed, calm down. To do this, if possible, darken the bedroom. A night light or candles are ideal for lighting. Turn on soothing music and relax in an armchair or sofa. Relax until you feel like you can sleep well.

      • Think positively or, if that doesn't work, try not to think about anything at all. Imagine what it would be like to climb into bed and fall asleep peacefully.
      • Turn down the music, blow out the candles and go to sleep.

   Relax your body

   1. Massage your body. This is great for relaxing stressed muscles. Massage your shoulders, forearms, thighs and even your hands. All this can be perfectly done during the day, even at the desktop.

      • If you enjoy massage, ask a friend to massage you, or see a professional. Massage is very relaxing and refreshing, especially if you lead a sedentary lifestyle.

   2. Avoid excessive consumption of caffeine. Although caffeine can be uplifting in the morning when you really need it, caffeine abuse will not lead to anything good in the long run. After a few hours, you will feel weak, irritable, and maybe even have a headache. Too much caffeine will also make it harder to fall asleep in the evening.

      • If you're heavily addicted to coffee, try reducing your daily or weekly coffee intake by at least one cup. You can also try switching from coffee to tea.
      • If you really need caffeine, try not to consume it in the afternoon and it will be much easier to fall asleep in the evening. If you are used to drinking a cup of coffee after dinner, replace it with decaffeinated coffee.

   3. Go in for sports. Only 30 minutes of training will allow you to relax perfectly. In order to put your pulse in order and let off steam, you do not need to do anything particularly difficult and tiring. Try to make time for a 30-minute workout at least three times a week. Here are some great workouts:

      • Power yoga. Not only is this a killer workout, but you can also unwind and focus on your breathing.
      • Run. You will be able to unwind, and at the same time you will have a wonderful cardio workout.
      • Hiking. Contact with nature instantly reduces stress levels.
      • Find a partner for going to the gym. This will allow you to practice in good company, chatting and laughing.
      • Don't forget to stretch. No matter what sport you play, stretch for at least 5-10 minutes before and after your workout. This will not only help you avoid injury, but it will also help you relax and calm down.
      • Avoid fatty foods. It causes indigestion and you will feel lethargic.
      • Have a snack. Between main meals, snack on fruits and nuts.

   4. Try to sleep well. Proper sleep patterns are very helpful in relieving stress. If you get enough sleep, then during the day you feel better, manage your life more correctly and are better prepared for problems and challenges. Here are some tips to help you sleep well:

      • Go to bed and get up at the same time every day. Developing a routine will help you get up more easily and go to bed on time.
      • Determine the optimal sleep duration for you. Usually a person needs 6-8 hours of sleep. Remember, oversleeping is just as bad as not getting enough sleep.
      • Before falling asleep, imagine how you will get up in the morning. Close your eyes and think about how great it will feel when your alarm goes off in the morning, you stretch, jump out of bed and start a new day.
      • Avoid caffeine, chocolate, and spicy foods in the evenings; All of these foods make it difficult to fall asleep.
   • Make sure that nothing distracts you from "relaxation". If you're especially busy, try to relax and avoid distractions, otherwise you'll load up even more.
   • Avoid noise and aggressive music.

   Warnings

   • If you are completely exhausted by stress, and you can’t cope with it on your own, contact your doctor or specialist immediately.

WE ALL HAVE ACCUMULATED A LOT OF QUESTIONS TO OURSELVES AND THE WORLD, with which there seems to be no time or it is not worth going to a psychologist. But convincing answers are not born either when talking with yourself, or with friends, or with parents. Therefore, we asked professional psychotherapist Olga Miloradova to answer pressing questions once a week. By the way, if you have them, send them to .

How to relax during sex?

It seems to us that nothing can embarrass us - we can be arbitrarily free-thinking in words, calmly joke on slippery topics and have fun discussing 50 types of porn with friends. However, when it comes down to it, our self-confidence sometimes disappears somewhere: it’s impossible to say, to make it even worse, and thoughts “how I look” and “does he like it” obsessively climb into my head. In general, it is very difficult to relax, the pleasure from sex is blurred or completely absent, and admitting that you are tense also does not work. As a result, many prefer to pretend that everything is okay, so as not to be upset once again and not to scare off a partner. Definitely enough to endure it, but where to start?

Olga Miloradova
psychotherapist

Most of us have not had a chance to form our ideas about sex based on observations from real life. Someone, of course, was "lucky", and he may even have observed parents making strange noises in the night. Someone managed to spy on an older brother or sister. But still, these examples are rather isolated and are unlikely to have greatly influenced your ideas about how sex should look like. The real trend in this area, of course, was set by cinema. And it doesn't really matter which movie we're talking about, whether it's a romantic story with a pair of perfect characters making love on the ocean, or porn in which the actors show amazing flexibility or a complete lack of a gag reflex. One thing is true: cinema sets standards that are impossible, and even unnecessary in real life, to which we nevertheless desperately strive.

Regardless of what exactly caused your anxiety, whether it be self-doubt, shame, anxiety, guilt, poor sexual experience - it all most often comes down to two main problems that concern you. The first is the concern that you may not be satisfying your partner. The second is frustration that you are not experiencing anything particularly pleasant, but do not want to upset him. You do not know how to show your dissatisfaction or tell your partner how to change the situation for the better and what you really want. And of course, all this is accompanied by attempts to draw in the stomach, turn on the favorable side instead of the comfortable one, beautifully scatter the hair over the pillow. In general, look like in the movies. And in the end, we have two people trying to effectively do something, the pleasure of which, due to such tense circumstances, is quite difficult to get.

Often women skip foreplay to prevent their partner from seeing cellulite or small breasts.

The most important way to avoid such situations of mutual misunderstanding (as well as many other problems) is to talk to each other. Paradoxical as it may sound, it is much easier to start a frank conversation with a casual or at least a new partner. If you just met and no one owes anything to anyone, then even if something goes wrong, you can always go into the night and never meet again.

At the same time, if you start a relationship (even for one night) with a dialogue, then this significantly reduces the chances that something will go wrong. It is not at all necessary to make a plan while sitting at the table, who and what loves in sex. It's much more natural to guide and correct something along the way, perhaps hinting at your fantasies and preferences in playful overnight messages. Most importantly, you should never portray what you do not feel and put up with what you absolutely do not want. If your partner basically does not want to admit that no means no, and not “maybe” at all, then this is already a good reason to say goodbye to him once and for all.

Even if you are extremely bashful, try to at least start with the phrases that “yes, that's what I like” or “that was good.” In addition to the fact that this will direct the partner in the right direction, moving in the right direction will give him confidence, and, believe me, he is most likely as nervous as you. Do not rush to get down to business until you really feel that you are turned on. It seems that so much is said about the importance of foreplay that even children know about it. But often girls may try to skip this stage, if only because it is here that the partner has the opportunity to properly see cellulite, too small / large breasts, some scars - in general, something that seems to you not your strongest side.

Here, of course, we are talking about the problems of accepting yourself as you are in general. But if you really have to speak situationally: firstly, a person has already liked you, he is attracted to you - and this at least indicates that you are not a cow or a dinosaur at all. Yes, under clothes we all look different than in clothes, and there can be surprises. But imagine that you are excited, and suddenly you are told: do I have too thin legs, a bulging stomach, or a hairy chest? Perhaps you didn’t even notice any of the above before, or everything seemed quite normal to you - and here you are offered not to think about the pink elephant. Therefore, despite the recommendation to discuss what worries you, at this particular moment, forget about it.

Even if you've been together for eight years and fake an orgasm every time, it's still not too late to change something.

Do not focus on your imaginary flaws. Imaginary at least because if for you, for example, the size of the chest is stereotypically significant, then the partner may be the last to worry about it. Maybe it matters to him that you have plump hands. Often helps to defuse tension and a bit of humor. Since sex in real life can be somewhat awkward or at least inelegant, why not make a joke about it. The main thing is that the joke does not touch on potentially traumatic topics, otherwise, instead of a relaxed atmosphere, you can create even more tension. Remember that not every sex has to end with an orgasm. However, you girls most likely remember this, but it’s also good to convey this to a less knowledgeable side.

Last but not least, it may be that you are ready to talk, but you don’t have much to say. In the sense that you do not yet know what you want or how to achieve it. Experiment. Maybe start on your own. If this does not scare you, then together with a partner. In the end, the very fact of studying oneself can become an interesting and unifying game.

And even if, for example, you have been together for eight years and every fifth (or first) time you simulate an orgasm and cannot bear the tenderness, without which, as it seemed to your partner, you cannot live - even then it is not too late to change something. If it’s hard for you to say directly that everything has always been wrong, say that you want to try something new, that you have new fantasies and needs. The main thing is that in the end you can feel comfortable in your own bed. And not in bed either.

Probably everyone has heard the expression “If you want to live, know how to spin!”. This is the motto of those who want to succeed in this world - to earn as much money and fame as possible. However, only a few are aware of the fact that from such a "rotation" one can lose all strength and health. Especially if a person does not know how to relax after work, or does not understand why this should be done.

But timely rest is the key to success. Believe me, any sane psychologist will confirm this. So let's talk about what to do if you are tired: how to quickly relax? What methods to use? And what exactly should be avoided?

This crazy world

We should start with a small rhetorical digression. We all know that in the modern world it is necessary to be better than others in order to defend our place under the sun. Indeed, in almost all areas there is fierce competition, which pushes people to constant competition. Note that this is quite normal, since it was precisely the predisposition to competition that allowed man to win the interspecific evolutionary race.

However, this does not mean that constant competition will lead a person to a better future. For any battle, strength is needed, otherwise it will be lost in advance. Alas, our body and mind cannot be in good shape all the time - they need rest to recharge. In the language of metaphors, a person can be compared to an engine. If you constantly use it at full capacity, it will quickly break down and will no longer be able to be useful.

But, unlike a car, a living organism after a “breakdown” will not be so easy to repair, and sometimes even impossible. Therefore, the first thing people should realize is the fact that they all need proper rest. It doesn't matter how much they want to get another promotion or achieve their goal.

Fatigue: what is it like?

Before you learn how to relax, you need to learn that there are two absolutely different types fatigue: physical and moral. The first is characteristic of those who work with their hands, and the second is characteristic of intellectuals. In addition, in some people these two types of exhaustion coexist, since the specificity of their work leads to this. For example, the profession of a dough mixer includes both large physical exercise and constant focus.

But back to our topic. The bottom line is that you can not remove both fatigue in the same way. After all, what helps with physical exhaustion is not always suitable for raising morale. Therefore, let's first consider those methods that allow the body to relax, and then move on to those that calm the soul.

30 minutes of calm

All of us going home after have a hard day, think about how to relax and put yourself in order. At such moments, it seems that your body is about to stop moving and simply fall to the ground like a dead weight. We think that now we will be well understood by those who work in factories from morning till night, doing heavy physical labor. And the only thing you want on such days is to fall into a warm bed and fall asleep until the next morning.

Alas, such bliss is available only to a few. After all, as soon as we come home, a whole mountain of everyday duties falls on us.

Therefore, most people, returning home, first of all begin to rush household chores. And this is their mistake. Due to these actions, our body is exposed to a lot of stress, because in fact he is informed that he does not deserve a rest. And believe me, this turn of events is clearly not to his liking.

Therefore, relaxation experts advise not to rush homework. Get some rest first. For example, 30-40 minutes of simple idleness on the couch will allow the body to replenish some of the lost strength. In addition, our body will understand that the work is left far behind and now we can calm down.

Eat Right

Before learning how to relax, a person must understand one important thing: any work consumes energy. The more forces we spend, the less of them remains in our "tank". And more importantly, it is impossible to have a normal rest with an empty reserve. That's why proper diet is the key to a good day.

Thus, the ideal option would be a small snack immediately after the end of the working day. At the same time, if the shift was very difficult, then it is best to eat in a restaurant or cafe. Firstly, you do not need to spend the rest of your energy on preparing dinner, and secondly, the relaxed atmosphere of such establishments helps you quickly forget about problems and troubles.

What we eat is also important. According to nutritionists, light snacks and fruits are best in the evening. This is due to the fact that they are full of carbohydrates, which are the ideal fuel for our body. The main thing is not to overdo it in food, otherwise you will have to think about how to lose those extra pounds.

Massage is the best medicine for the body

How to relax the body after hard and exhausting work? Well, the most effective medicine is massage. It is he who allows you to relieve tension from the muscles, thereby leading a person to a state of nirvana. Therefore, if you feel that your body is on the verge, ask your soulmate to give you a general massage. Believe me, 10-15 minutes of bliss, and the body will again begin to obediently obey your orders.

However, how to relax if a person lives alone? In this case, there are two options: firstly, you can go to a special salon, and secondly, learn self-massage techniques. Naturally, the first method is more effective, but it requires money. The second requires training, but at the same time allows you to master a skill that will forever remain with you.

Something available to everyone...

We live in a world where everyone has a hot shower or bath. Alas, only a few people know that warm water relieves physical fatigue well. And this The best decision for those people who do not know how to relax and calm down without leaving home.

In addition, the effectiveness of this procedure can be increased by adding mineral salts to the water. They will not only relieve fatigue from the muscles, but also give the skin a blush. Thus, you can relax well and take care of your health.

The danger that lies behind the overload of the nervous system

Unfortunately, in our country, many advice from a psychologist remains out of sight. ordinary people. But it is these experts who warn most of all about how dangerous psychological overload at work can be. For example, did you know that a lack of positive emotions inevitably leads to depression? And she, in turn, is a complex psychological disease that is quite difficult to cure in the later stages?

Therefore, each person should know how to emotionally relax and put their thoughts in order. Fortunately, today there are many techniques and techniques that can help with this. So, let's talk about how to relax and calm down in those days when it seems that the whole world is up against you.

No thoughts about work

The problem with most people is that they can't let go of the thought of work. Even being outside the office or workshop, they still mentally stay in it. A string of images swirling around in their head associated with a half-finished report, hurtful words director or an unsuccessful order. And it is these thoughts that do not allow a person to tune in to rest, which is why the brain gradually begins to “boil”.

Therefore, if you do not know how to relax after a hard day, the first thing to do is to forget about it. Just get it out of your head. Understand that today you will no longer be able to solve these problems, and therefore there is no point in winding yourself up once again. Set a rule: solve all cases only during working hours, and devote all free minutes only to yourself and your loved ones.

Add more colors

How to relax if the whole life is a gray canvas? When the only entertainment after work is watching TV or hours of monitoring social networks? If you really want to get rid of emotional fatigue, add bright colors into your life.

At the same time, this advice should not be taken as a call to engage in extreme sports. No! You can get pleasure even without risking your own life. For example, go to the cinema or theater. Believe me, the world is full of interesting things that are worth your attention. This is especially necessary when the day turned out to be worse than ever.

Perhaps someone will say that this requires forces, which after work, and so there are very few left. But the truth is that it would be much better to gather your will into a fist and go to the park to unwind than to feel sorry for yourself and suffer from bad thoughts all evening in your own apartment. Just catch yourself thinking that time is fleeting, and therefore it must be spent with maximum benefit for myself.

You are not alone!

Another little trick is that relaxing is best with friends or close people. After all, it is communication that helps a person forget about his problems, work, and even fatigue. Therefore, if you are broken, call someone and arrange a walk together.

At the same time, it does not matter where exactly the meeting will take place: in a bar, park, pizzeria, at a fountain or at home. The main thing is that the people around you bring you happiness. However, remember that on such days it is better to avoid those friends who like to complain about their lives. Otherwise, you will not be able to relax, as the problems of others will only aggravate the situation.

What is meditation?

Previously, only the sages of the East were initiated into the secrets of meditative techniques. And although today the veil of secrecy has fallen, people still do not use this amazing technique. The thing is that they simply do not believe in its relaxing power or they do not have the patience to master it. But it is she who is the the best way relieve both mental and physical stress.

Therefore, if you have a very hard job, do not be lazy and learn at least the simplest form of meditation. Believe me, it will not take much time, but the effect of this will exceed all your hopes and expectations.

What not to do, or How to relax without bad habits?

In conclusion, let's talk about what not to do. Let's start with the fact that many do not know how to relax without alcohol. For some reason, in our country there is a wrong opinion that this particular drink is the best way to relieve mental and physical fatigue. However, any doctor will tell you that this is not the case.

Indeed, in fact, alcohol only overloads the body, not allowing it to move away from daily stress. Thus, instead of relaxation, a person receives another test, after which he will feel even worse. Therefore, on such days it is better to protect yourself from alcohol, leaving it until better times.

Switch to fresh juice instead. It will not only allow you to replenish your energy supply, but will cheer you up due to the vitamins that it contains. In addition, an excess of juice in the body does not lead to an acute headache in the morning, which is also nice.

Illness is always stressful for the body. A stuffy nose, headaches, and the worry that you can't go about your business keep you from relaxing when you're trying to recover from a cold or flu. Good sleep, a clear mind and the ability to relax significantly speed up the healing process.

Steps

How to improve sleep quality

Always consult your doctor before taking medication. When taking prescription drugs or combining over-the-counter cold and flu medicines, always seek the advice of a pharmacist or doctor to prevent adverse reactions.

• For example, if you are taking antidepressants, sleeping pills, or sedatives, then you should avoid over-the-counter medications containing antihistamines that cause drowsiness. The wrong combination of medicines can be dangerous side effects and even lead to death.

1. Be careful with over-the-counter drugs. Not all of them will improve your sleep. In addition, many sleeping pills help you fall asleep but reduce the quality of your sleep. Avoid taking cold and flu medicines that contain pseudoephedrine or ephedrine.

   • If necessary, take them 2 or 3 hours before bedtime.
   • Decongestants should be taken while awake, and pain relievers or antihistamines that increase drowsiness should be taken just before bed.

2. Choose your nasal spray carefully. The spray helps relieve nasal congestion for 8 hours or more, but it may contain stimulants that cause insomnia.

   • Choose nasal sprays containing oxymetazoline or xylometazoline. These funds actively counteract stagnation and are not stimulants.
   • Nasal strips mechanically open the airways without stimulating the body.

3. Drink warm soothing drinks. During illness, appetite may worsen, but dehydration of the body should not be allowed. You need to drink plenty of fluids. High-calorie drinks like hot chocolate help prepare your body for sleep.

   • According to research, hot soft drinks help fight cold and flu symptoms like sneezing and coughing.

4. The environment in the bedroom affects the quality of sleep. Hide equipment that distracts attention - TV, computer and other electronic devices. You also need to adjust the comfortable temperature, as it is much more beneficial to sleep in a cool room.

   • Vaporizers and humidifiers can help make breathing easier and maintain an environment conducive to healthy sleep.

5. Imagine a calm place. To relax, you can remember a quiet place or a pleasant moment from the past. When you are transported to a deserted beach or start remembering the way to school, try to focus on the details to calm your mind.

6. Listen to music. Music has a very strong effect on mood, so choose a calming song or a song that evokes happy memories.

   • If you have a sore throat, don't make it worse by loudly singing your favorite song.

How to create comfort

Choose an activity where you can sit or raise your head. If you lie flat, gravity will force the post-nasal drip down your throat, making it hard to breathe.

• For example, you can read a book, watch your favorite movies, or play with your pet.

Use steam. If you take a hot bath, use a humidifier, or simply hold your face over a pot of hot water If you cover your head with a towel, the moist air will help relieve nasal congestion.

• If you decide to hold your head over a pot of boiling water, then be careful not to scald yourself.