Who better not to be friends with. Physical therapy in the pool is not recommended
Friendship is a wonderful relationship of people that is built on respect, understanding and selflessness. Everyone has friends. But in life sometimes it happens that a friend suddenly becomes a stranger. In order not to experience disappointment and resentment towards your friends, you should always know what the stars say about this. Each sign of the zodiac has its own character and characteristics. Everyone makes friends differently. To find out about your friend and whether he knows how to be friends, just read about his horoscope. The stars will be able to tell you whether to trust and be friends with certain people. And then it's up to you.
10. Aries
His friends can become people who are beneficial to them. Aries will sincerely be friends, help and come to the rescue only as long as this friendship is beneficial to them. As soon as the friend becomes better than the ram in some way or becomes useless in this relationship, then all the selfless devotion of the ram will come to naught. They are very smart and cunning. They are demanding of their friends, and consider that a friend is their shadow. He must give everything and at the same time remain invisible.
9. Taurus
They try to be cautious even in friendship and will never open up to a friend. They often lie for their own benefit, they have secrets even from their best friends. Very often in people they see only those qualities that will be useful to them. Taurus believe that friendship should only bring benefits. It is better not to enter into disputes with them, even friendly ones. Taurus can't stand it when a friend gives them advice, they are very stubborn and will never be able to admit their mistakes. They themselves can offend friends for no reason and will consider themselves right. Taurus needs friends only in difficult situations, they will insist on help and demand it, although they themselves may forget about you in difficult times.
8. Gemini
They do not know how to be friends for a long time and they very often make new friends, to whom they give their whole soul. The twins spend all their free time with them and just fall in love with this person. But as soon as they meet a more interesting person in their lives, their love and friendship quickly begin to fade away, old friends for them are just unnecessary things. They switch all their care and attention to a new friend. Gemini cannot be told secrets, they will definitely let it out and do it with special pleasure. Very often they spread rumors about their former friends, so their friendship is very unreliable.
7. Cancer
He is a silent friend. Cancer very quickly and strongly becomes attached to a friend, and often becomes simply annoying. For cancer, a friend is more than a relative, he sincerely believes that your family is his family and can come to visit without an invitation, and will think that this is normal. In order to be friends with him, you must consider him your close relative, otherwise this friendship will only annoy. Cancer can always listen to their friend and try to help in any way they can. He will not only listen and worry about a friend, but will also try to give advice, although sometimes advice is completely useless.
6. Virgo
This sign is very selfish. In friendship, he skillfully manipulates his comrades. A friend of the virgin cannot even imagine that he is doing everything that this sign asks for. The friend will be sure that he is the leader in these friendships, but the cunning maiden will skillfully choose the words so that everything is according to her will. Virgos will very quickly make you stop communicating with other people, and will draw all the attention to your person. The virgins themselves never refuse to help their friends and are ready for them to do anything. Sometimes the aggressive behavior of the virgins is explained by the reluctance to share a friend with others, they will do anything so that you have only one friend left.
5. Scales
This sign can be friends with everyone, he dislikes conflict situations so much that he is ready to accept everyone as a friend and show that he trusts them. It is sometimes very difficult to make out whether the scales have best friends because they are friends with everyone. Libras show universal affection and friendship for others only for their own benefit, in order to make their world comfortable and peaceful. If they are sincerely friends, they always take care of their friend, it is always carefree and pleasant with them. To help, they are ready to sacrifice themselves for the sake of pure friendship, Libras can very easily act as a truce, and often reconcile their friends.
4. Leo
3. Scorpio
Scorpios are very strange friends, sometimes they just pretend to be friends just to take advantage of a person for their own benefit. Scorpio is manipulative in friendship. This sign will easily find words and actions to get you to do whatever it needs. If a scorpion has chosen someone as his chosen one, and did it sincerely, then without regret he gives everything for a friend. Scorpios are very often generous and not only in material terms. They easily share their luck and experience only with real friends and are happy to solve all problems for their friend.
2. Sagittarius
These signs are very touchy towards their friends, they believe that everyone owes them and demand unconditional fidelity in friendship. After all, they themselves, without reminders, are ready to rush headlong to the rescue, for the sake of a friend they will share everything they have and give the last without regret. But, if friends do not also belong to them, then resentment cannot be avoided, archers begin to punish friends, showing their indifference by silence. Sometimes they do rash and ugly things, but they are always sure that a friend is simply obliged to support them, even if the Sagittarius is clearly wrong.
1. Capricorn
This sign of the zodiac practically does not know how to be a friend. If a Capricorn has relatives, then he practically does not need friends himself and does not know how to behave with his close friends so as not to offend them. Capricorns try to get their own benefit out of each friend, so they are friends only when they need something. They prefer to keep a long distance from people, hiding their true feelings and emotions, but if, nevertheless, a Capricorn has let a friend into his life, then you will not find him more devoted.
Sometimes we don't realize it's time to clear our life of a certain person until it's too late.
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You are the type to say yes and generously share your shoulder to cry and your time to complain. Hey, are these same friends ready for a big deed for you? While you are thinking about the answer, we present our classification of toxic people who slowly, brick by brick, destroy your life and nervous system.
1. The friend who never asks how you are
And don't say you don't know this type of people! You should know how she/he is doing at work, what is going on at home, what the neighbor from the tenth floor is doing, yes, the one with the loud barking dog. What do you get in return? Never mind. Your meetings are more like interviews: you ask a question, they give you an answer. Find someone who really cares about you.
2. The friend who makes you self-destruct
Relationships with such a person can be really destructive. Such a "friend" usually makes you do things like:
quit the diet
start smoking/drinking
skip work
and other destructive actions.
This person simply does not like that you are successful at work, are in good physical shape, are struggling with bad habits Take time for self-development. It will be more pleasant for them if you stumble and fall from your pedestal to their level. Do you have any reason to support friendly relations with her/him?
3. A friend who pulls all the energy out of you
Whether you agree with the concept of “energy vampire” or not, at least once in your life you have probably come across a person who, after communicating with whom, you felt squeezed out like a lemon. This is a drama man. If nothing happens to him, he will artificially create an extremely dramatic situation and will definitely involve you in it. Under the most ridiculous pretexts, he will ask you to understand this or that issue, begging for help. And you will just give your all instead of directing your energies to the really important things.
4. The friend who kills all the fun
And such comrades also exist in your environment. Usually they kill the whole mood with their pessimistic comments, like: “Today is too hot and the sun is blinding, let's not go anywhere”, “Why spend so much money on food when you can eat at home?”, “Going to the cinema is such a stupid idea! This film is already on the Internet”, etc. Too much contact with such a person can even have a detrimental effect on your sense of humor. We are not kidding!
5. A friend who constantly criticizes you
If your friend is not a nutritionist or trainer, he has no right to point you to overweight if your friend is not a dermatologist, he has no right to poke at your skin problems ... We can give a thousand examples when a person, without any authority, starts commenting on the appearance of another. At the same time, the “friend” may himself have flaws that you, as a delicate and well-mannered person, will not hint to him. We believe that having such a person next to you is only worth it when you need a “kick”, and better not.
6. A friend who loves to gossip
The reason for this is very simple: if today he is discussing your mutual acquaintances, then the hour is not far off when he will discuss you. Things get even worse because you tell him a lot of personal things. Friend anyway! Be careful: both your reputation and your relationships with people important to you may suffer.
7. A friend who constantly asks for money
Of course, friendship just exists to support each other in difficult moments and share the latter in case of need. But in everything there must be common sense. If you are in close contact with a person who does not get out of debt and has constant financial difficulties, think ten times before lending him a certain amount. You may end sadly - you will lose both money and a friend.
This is such a subtle matter, there are so many pitfalls in it. It seems female friendship is a myth, a hidden form of adaptation. In fact, it is very difficult for one woman to accept another. In female friendship, every woman plays the role of first violin. At least for yourself.
But some women have been friends for years, decades. They support each other, encourage, come to the rescue. And really, what difference does it make what scientists think about female friendship. You just have that person to whom you can entrust all your secrets, tell about the guy you like. And, of course, go shopping together.
But there are such girlfriends who are just right to be called cursed. You need to stay as far away from them as possible. Such women are simply not made for friendship. At the most crucial moment, they will certainly put a knife in the back. So, here are the types of girlfriends to stay away from.
1. Gossip girl.
She knows everything about everyone. And she is ready to use her knowledge for selfish purposes. A gossiping friend is asking you for as much information as possible. But rarely shares the secrets of his life. She has one idea - to collect as much dirt as possible. Gossip Girl will spread your secrets throughout the city. You need to stay away from such a woman, otherwise she will certainly share the details of your personal life with others.
2. Party girl.
The party girl does not pose a direct threat. But indirectly, it negatively affects your life. The meaning of the existence of a party girl is parties, new acquaintances, a pleasant pastime. She is a frequenter of all nightclubs, she knows by sight every bartender in the city. It’s not boring with a party girl, but such friendship is not useful either. With a party girl, you can get into some kind of trouble or even get hooked on alcohol. The party girl won't bail you out difficult situation. She'd better head to the club for another cocktail.
3. Envious.
She looks at you all the time with barely concealed envy. Such a girl's eyes glow with anger when you talk about a new purchase, a gift from a loved one, or an increase in salary. An envious person will never be happy for you. She sincerely wants you to go to the bottom. But here's what's strange: envious women do not leave the object of their envy. They have been friends with a more successful friend for years, fueled by anger.
4. Whiner.
Forever dissatisfied with everything, crying for any reason girl. All the men are not good for her, all the bosses are ugly, the weather is always bad, and the new dress is full. Next to such a squishy girlfriend, you can become a whiner yourself. Bad mood contagious. Over time, you, too, will become a pessimist who is not satisfied with anything in life. You will have to constantly console not only your weak-willed girlfriend, but also yourself.
5. Prom queen.
The girl wants to be the center of attention all the time. It's hard to be morally with such a friend. She likes to suppress her arrogance, praises herself. Maybe even inadvertently humiliate. Her goal is to always be in the center, to shine and not pay attention to others.
If you have such girlfriends, you should keep your eyes open. The fact is that a true friend should support, give spiritual comfort, stimulate. And such sworn friends only pull your mental strength. They look like energy vampires that feed on your energy.
Whether to be friends with such women is your choice. But remember that good friend does not make you feel uncomfortable. She is ready to help, it is easy to communicate with her. This is the kind of friend you need to look for.
Of course, each of us wants to be surrounded only by happy, kind, sympathetic and cheerful like-minded people, but unfortunately this is not always the case. Sometimes people get into our environment who, by their very presence, poison the existence of those around them. Who are these people and what danger do they carry?
1. Manipulators.These people are specialists in the field of manipulation. You can communicate with them for a very long time until you realize that you are constantly being used. Manipulators are good at identifying a person’s weak points and know which lever to pull in order to force others to do what is beneficial to them.
· What are dangerous: Associating with these people negatively affects your belief system and feeling dignity. They find ways to make you do things you don't want to do, and that destroys you as a person. You begin to live by the priorities and beliefs of these people, and not by your own.
2. Daffodils.These are people with a heightened sense of self-importance, who are used to believing that the world revolves around them. They are not as cunning as manipulators, but they also try to adjust the people around them for themselves. Usually such people want to say: “You are not the center of the universe!”.
· What is dangerous: They are fixated on themselves and focused solely on their needs. Your interests are completely indifferent to them. They use you, being completely sure that this is in the order of things, because everyone around is obliged to sacrifice themselves for them.
3. Pessimists.These people do not appreciate the good things in their lives. If you tell them: “Today is a great sunny day!”, they will answer that they promise rain and cold weather tomorrow. If you share your joy that your favorite football team has reached the final, you will immediately hear the answer: “But they will definitely lose in the final.”
· What are dangerous: These people steal the joy of those around them. They look at the world with negativity, which they infect everyone around. Communicating with such people, you yourself begin to see everything in gray.
4. Critics. When you see something as cute and quirky, they see it as weird and unattractive. If you consider someone talented and promising, they consider him stupid and mediocre. If you say that you like jazz, they will say that it is just a bunch of random sounds. They constantly need to argue with someone, they believe that their opinion is the only correct one, and those who disagree with it are considered fools.
· What are dangerous: They are trying to remake the whole world for themselves and start with those around them. These people do not understand that the world is interesting because all people are different and everyone has their own opinion. They feed on negative emotions that they receive in endless disputes.
5. Dream killers.Every time you have ideas, these people tell you that they are impossible to implement. When you try to achieve something, they pull you down. When you dream of something, they are the first to let you know that your dreams are impossible.
· What are dangerous: They fixated on what is now, completely denying what could be. They can easily destroy your self-respect and faith in yourself. Progress and self-development are possible only when a person is ready for something new.
6. Hypocrites.These are people who constantly breathe insincerity. When you tell funny story, in response you hear polite laughter from them, although you see that in fact they are not funny. When you are depressed, they say that you can ask them for help at any time, but as soon as you turn to them with even the smallest request, they refuse you. To your face they say that they love you, and behind your back they tell their mutual friends what a stupid and unpleasant person you are.
· What are dangerous: Relations with such people are insincere and superficial. When you feel the need for their support, they will not be around. Their warm attitude towards you is just an appearance.
7. Ignorant.These are people who have a habit of doing everything at the most inopportune moment and in the most inopportune way. They don't shy away from anything. It is often shameful for such people.
· What are dangerous: These people do not know any limits and boundaries. They do not respect the feelings of other people and can easily offend you at any moment.
All these faces have a few things in common:
1) the more they receive comments about their behavior, the worse it becomes;
2) these people do not want to admit that they are doing something wrong, so all your words for them are empty sounds;
3) with age, these people change only for the worse.
Don't try to fix these people, it's impossible. If you have the opportunity to avoid contact with them, use it. Life is too short to waste your energy and time on them.
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Lucky are those people who met their best friends at school. At all, school friendship often considered the standard throughout life. But there are times when friendship remains only in words, but in reality, classmates more and more often seem like strangers. Is it normal?
website I decided to deal with this issue and revealed 3 facts that will help you understand: are classmates real friends? And are those people who are not friends with their party colleagues at all adequate?
Fact #1: Classmates most often unfollow each other on social media
You will say: “Oh, well, a ridiculous indicator.” And we will object to you: as they are called today, “unfriends” are very revealing examples of the cultural and life distance of people.
Christopher Sibona, a graduate student at the University of Colorado (USA), conducted a whole study on unsubscribing in social networks and found out that classmates most often unfriend each other on Facebook. The reason for unsubscribing is usually “depolarization”, that is, a radical distancing of the worldview of people who seemed to be sitting in the same class yesterday. Religious, political, and generally morally different publications on the network are indicators of these changes, which force many people to commit such a terrible act of unsubscribing. Another reason is the triviality and lack of interest of a former classmate. Why not delete it if you are unlikely to ever cross paths?
If it’s completely rude, then today there is an unspoken rule among young people: “removed from friends - deleted from life.” And most of the time they do it. former classmates. What do you think it says?
Fact #2: You have nothing to talk about
Have you noticed that at meetings of classmates, memories are most often discussed? We are talking, of course, about standard class meetings, and not about gatherings with the best / bosom friends from school, with whom you have not parted since last call. If you cut off all the old jokes, gossip, news about teachers and dry facts from your life from your conversation, then sometimes you won’t even have anything to talk about. Here's a good time for a visual story from one of our editors:
“Last year, I ended up passing through the city of N, where my former classmate now lives. We were good friends at school and still communicated in the company: you know, group chats in instant messengers, comments on Instagram. In general, I did not have a single doubt that I should spend these 5 hours before the plane in her so long-awaited company. The first 2 hours of our meeting were spent discussing the lives of our classmates, our own lives, and the life of city N. The next 2 hours passed in the company of tense pauses and abrupt changes in dialogue directions, when one of us suddenly remembered a suitable topic for discussion. For the last hour it was necessary to film us: we walked side by side in the park, looked in different directions and interrupted our silence with heavy sighs, accompanied by the phrases: “That's it, hmm” and “That's how it is.” There was absolutely nothing to talk about. And then I thought with regret that all these chats in instant messengers and comments on Instagram are a fiction of friendship, clinging to the past out of respect, nothing more.
Fact #3: team ≠ friends
This problem is best described by Heidi, one of the authors of the Fortworth children's blog: “Over the years, I have heard that many teachers position my son's classmates as his real friends. Everything seemed to be so, until one day my son returned from school, disturbed by the rude behavior of one such “friend”. Knowing that this wasn't the first time this kid had run into my son, I explained to him that sometimes we run into people we don't get along with, and that's okay. We have to be polite to them, but we don't have to be friends. I will never forget that confused look and the question: “Then why does the teacher say that we are friends?”
Not everyone in the class will be your friend - that's understandable. But is it possible that no one in the class will be your friend? And is it normal that friendship is lost over the years, and you and your once closest guys young years Are you incredibly distant from each other?
Answer: yes, that's fine. Moreover, sometimes it is logical(The word “sometimes” means that this may not be your case. Maybe you are lucky and met real friends at school).
To understand, let's look at your friends from other walks of life:
- With classmates you have a common specialty. That is, you have unanimously determined for yourself in life a certain topic that interests you, a profession.
- With colleagues, you also have a single highly specialized field, in order to work in which your way of thinking may need to be somewhat similar.
- With companions for (here to choose from): the football team, musical group, a literary circle, a group in the gym, a volunteer squad, a brotherhood of sectarians, a trash bar trip team, and more - you also have common interests with them.
What about classmates? You just once collected in organized group by place of residence and by age. And the case if among these 10, 20 or 30 guys there was not a single soul mate to you, this is not an amazing coincidence, but quite an ordinary case. That's why "not being friends with classmates" is not a terrible sin or a sign of a misanthrope / sociopath / freak / maniac. You just got into a group with completely strangers to you.
Are you familiar with this story? Or were you lucky enough to meet your best friend at school?
